Limits Negotiation
Your boundaries. Always current. Always yours.
Limits aren’t a conversation you have once and file away. They shift as you grow. Bonded keeps yours alive — always accessible, always honest, always respected. Only you can edit your column. That’s not a policy. It’s how the platform works.
Both partners' limits side by side, colour-coded by classification
What it does
A living document, not a one-time conversation.
Every activity your dynamic might involve is there — from impact play to photography, bondage to financial control. You classify each one independently: hard limit, soft limit, curious, neutral, or leave it blank. Your choices are visible to your partner, but only you can change them.
The table is always one tap away. When you change something, your partner knows. It's negotiation that stays open — not a single conversation, but an ongoing one.
Marking something as curious doesn't mean you consent to it. It means you're open to talking about it. Your limits are a tool for negotiation, not a blank cheque.
How it works
Classify, compare, revisit.
Go through the activities
Activities are grouped by category. Work through them at your own pace, or search for something specific.
Swiping through activities on mobile, classifying each one
Set your limits honestly
For each one: hard limit, soft limit, curious, neutral, or skip it. Your choices are visible to your partner, but only you can change them. Set them honestly.
Classifying an activity as a soft limit with one tap
See where you align
The shared table shows both of you side by side. You see where you overlap, where you differ, and where there’s room to explore together.
The shared table with both partners' limits visible side by side
Come back and update
Things change. When you update a limit, your partner knows something shifted. Change them freely. The document stays current as you grow.
A changed limit flagged with a notification for your partner
“We filled out a limits checklist when we started. That was two years ago. It's in a drawer somewhere. Neither of us could tell you what's on it.”
Honest boundaries. Informed authority.
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