Example agreement
M & j
Agreement of Dynamic
Between M and j • Effective 1 April 2026
1.Safewords and consent
The following safewords shall be honoured immediately and without question:
- "Red" — All activity ceases immediately. The scene ends. Aftercare begins.
- "Yellow" — Current activity pauses. A check-in occurs before proceeding.
- Three taps on any surface, or dropping a held object — Non-verbal signal when speech is restricted.
Use of a safeword is never punishable and shall not carry consequences within the dynamic.
2.Standing rules
The submissive agrees to observe the following standing rules for the duration of this agreement:
- Must ask permission before orgasm
- Must greet with a specified title
- Must report daily activities
- Must ask permission before spending above agreed limit
- Must complete all assigned tasks before deadline
- Must maintain personal grooming standards as specified
- Must be honest about all feelings and concerns
- Must journal or reflect as scheduled
- Must be in bed by 11pm on weeknights
- Must send a good morning message within 30 minutes of waking
- Must present kneeling when M arrives home
The Dominant may modify these rules with prior discussion. Changes take effect upon mutual acknowledgement.
3.Limits and boundaries
Hard limits — The following activities are strictly prohibited and may not be negotiated within the scope of this agreement:
- Blood play
- Breath play
- Needle play
- Scat
- Age play
- Fire play
- Branding/marking
Soft limits — The following activities may be explored only with explicit, in-the-moment consent and caution:
- Public play
- Humiliation (public)
- Knife play
- Degradation
- Sleep deprivation
- Group play
Curiosities — Both parties are open to exploring the following, subject to further discussion:
- Wax play
- Pet play
- Collaring
- Exhibitionism
- Food control
- Electrical play
Limits may be updated at any time by either party. Updates shall be communicated clearly and acknowledged.
4.Tasks and accountability
The Dominant may assign tasks to the submissive. The following task types are agreed upon:
- Evidence tasks (photo/video/audio/document proof)
- Written lines (typed repetition)
- Timed endurance tasks
- Written reflections
- Domestic service tasks
Acceptable evidence of completion: photo, video, written text. The Dominant reserves the right to reject insufficient evidence and request resubmission.
5.Communication, reflection, and aftercare
Check-ins outside of scenes shall occur daily.
The submissive shall submit a written diary or reflection daily. The Dominant shall read and, where appropriate, respond.
Aftercare is non-negotiable. The following needs have been identified:
Physical: blankets and warmth, physical holding, water and snacks, gentle touch, quiet time together
Emotional: verbal reassurance, praise and affirmation, debriefing the scene, check-in the next day
6.Financial oversight
The submissive consents to the following financial arrangements:
- Spending must be reported above an agreed amount
- Receipts required for all purchases
- Monthly budget set by the Dominant
- Joint review of finances at check-ins
Financial control may be suspended or revoked by either party at any time.
7.Chastity and orgasm control
The following chastity and orgasm control terms are agreed:
- Orgasm permitted only with explicit permission
- Timed lockup periods with agreed targets
- Device removal for hygiene at specified intervals
- Emergency removal permitted at any time
8.Duration, review, and termination
This agreement shall be reviewed monthly. Both parties shall discuss what is working, what is not, and whether modifications are needed.
The following termination conditions apply:
- Either party may end this agreement at any time, for any reason
- A conversation is required before ending the agreement
- A cooldown period of 48 hours before the agreement is considered ended
- All shared data and materials to be deleted upon ending
- A closing check-in within one week of ending
This agreement is not legally binding. It is a declaration of intent, trust, and mutual commitment between consenting adults.
9.Additional provisions
- Both parties commit to attending a monthly munch or community event together where practical
- M will not issue tasks or punishments when either party is unwell, emotionally distressed, or has invoked a check-in
M
Date: _______________
j
Date: _______________
What you see above is a real agreement generated by the builder. M and j sat down, worked through eight sections, ticked boxes, chose their limits, and the tool produced a formatted contract with numbered clauses and signature lines. It took about ten minutes.
The post-it notes on the side show how each section of the contract connects to a feature inside Bonded. The rules become trackable. The limits become a shared, living document. The diary clause becomes a real daily practice. The contract is the plan. Bonded is how you follow through on it.
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See all features→What makes a good BDSM contract example?
A BDSM contract example should be realistic. Not a fantasy scenario, not a legal parody, not a list of extreme activities designed to shock. It should look like something two real people would actually agree to. That means specific rules, honest limits, practical aftercare, and a termination clause that respects both partners.
The example above covers a lifestyle dynamic between two partners using initials rather than scene names. It includes eleven standing rules, a mix of hard limits, soft limits, and curiosities, daily check-ins and diary entries, financial oversight, chastity terms, and a full set of aftercare needs for both the physical and emotional side.
Notice the additional clauses at the end. One commits both partners to community involvement. The other prevents the Dominant from assigning tasks or punishments when either person is unwell. These are the kind of clauses that separate a thoughtful agreement from a generic template.
How to use this BDSM contract example
Read through it together. Talk about what resonates and what doesn't. Use it as a starting point for your own conversation. The specific rules, limits, and aftercare needs in this example belong to M and j. Yours will be different, and they should be.
When you're ready, use the builder to create your own. The questions walk you through each section, offer structured options to choose from, and generate a formatted document you can download as a PDF. Every agreement is different because every dynamic is different.
Dom/sub contract examples and why they matter
People search for BDSM contract examples because starting from scratch is intimidating. Staring at a blank page and trying to articulate every boundary, expectation, and protocol in your relationship is a lot to ask. An example gives you structure. It shows you what sections to include, how detailed to get, and what kind of language works.
The problem with most examples online is that they are either absurdly extreme or uselessly vague. A good submissive contract example should be something you could actually hand to your partner and say "let's start here." It should cover safety first, rules second, and include a clear way out for both people.
A D/s contract is not about control for its own sake. It is about clarity. When both people know what is expected, what is off limits, and what happens when something goes wrong, the dynamic has room to grow. The contract creates the safety for the vulnerability.
Frequently asked questions
Can I copy this example?
You can use it as inspiration, but your agreement should reflect your dynamic, not someone else's. Use the builder to create one tailored to you.
Is this a real contract?
It was generated using the builder with realistic inputs. It is not a legal document. No BDSM contract is legally binding.
What if my dynamic is simpler than this?
Skip the sections that don't apply. A bedroom-only dynamic might only need safewords, a few rules, and limits. The builder adapts to what you select.
What if my dynamic is more complex?
Add custom rules, additional clauses, and use the free-text fields for anything the presets don't cover. The builder is a starting point, not a ceiling.
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