Alternatives
Looking for an Obedience alternative?
Obedience is a solid app that's earned its place in the D/s space. But it's not the only option — and depending on what your dynamic actually needs, it might not be the right one. Here are the real alternatives, with honest takes on each.
Context
Why people look for alternatives.
Obedience does task and rule tracking well. It's focused, it's established, and if that's all your dynamic needs, it works.
But dynamics grow. People start wanting chastity tracking, limits negotiation, a shared chat that isn't WhatsApp, budget management, a web app they can use on a laptop. Obedience doesn't cover those — it's a task tracker, not a relationship platform.
That's not a criticism. It's a scope decision they made. But if your dynamic has outgrown that scope, here's what else is out there.
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Bonded.
Full D/s relationship platform. Web app, mobile apps coming soon.
This is us, so take this with the appropriate grain of salt. But we built Bonded specifically because we wanted something that covered the whole dynamic — not just tasks.
What you get: Rules with evidence (photo, video, audio, document, text), lines and timer tasks, chastity tracking with live countdowns, limits negotiation, chat, budget management, diary with Dom(me) review, activity timeline, shared files, and a wishlist.
Privacy: Passwordless login, biometric app lock, auto-deleting evidence, full data destruction when a dynamic ends. Privacy as architecture.
Platforms: Web app. iOS and Android coming soon.
Price: Free tier available. Takes two minutes to set up.
Best for: Dynamics that need more than task tracking — especially if chastity, limits, or long-distance structure matters to you.
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Chaster.
Dedicated chastity platform. Web-based.
If chastity is the centre of your dynamic and you don't need much else, Chaster is purpose-built for it. Open source, with community features like shared locks and public sessions.
What it does well: Lock management, community-driven extensions, keyholder controls, gamification elements. The community is active and the development is steady.
Limitation: Chastity only. No rules, no tasks, no limits, no chat, no budget, no diary. If your dynamic involves anything beyond the lock, you'll need a second tool.
Best for: People whose dynamic is primarily chastity-focused, or who want the community and social features around locking.
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Notion & Trello templates.
Total customisation. No privacy.
Plenty of people manage dynamics through Notion databases or Trello boards. There are even D/s-specific templates floating around. The flexibility is real — you can structure it however your dynamic works.
What works: Completely customisable. Free. You can build rule trackers, task boards, reflection journals, anything you can imagine. If you're the type who enjoys building systems, it's genuinely satisfying.
What doesn't: No push notifications when a task is due. No role awareness — the app doesn't know who's the Dom(me) and who's the sub. No evidence submissions. No privacy features — your D/s data lives on servers designed for project management. And if your dynamic ends, there's no clean data deletion.
Best for: People who love building custom systems and aren't storing sensitive evidence.
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DIY spreadsheets.
The original D/s management tool.
Google Sheets. Excel. The tool that came before everything else. Plenty of dynamics still run on a shared spreadsheet with tabs for rules, punishments, rewards, and limits.
It works until it doesn't. No notifications, no evidence handling, no privacy to speak of, and the structure lives or dies on how diligent you are about updating it.
Best for: Getting started quickly when you're first negotiating a dynamic. Less practical as a long-term management tool.
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Other D/s apps.
The long tail.
Search the app stores for "BDSM" or "D/s" and you'll find a handful of other apps. Most are solo projects — some are genuinely interesting experiments, some haven't been updated in years.
We're not going to name them individually because the space changes. But if you find one that works for your dynamic, use it. The best tool is the one you'll actually use together.
Still using Obedience?
If it works for your dynamic, stay. Seriously. Switching tools for the sake of it is a distraction from the actual relationship. Obedience does task tracking well and it has an active community.
But if you keep running into the edges — wanting chastity tracking, limits, a web app, better privacy, chat that isn't a separate messenger — those aren't going to be added to a task tracker. That's a different kind of tool.
Bonded was built to be that tool. Free to try. You don't lose anything by seeing if it fits.
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